The short answer
Family opposition is a common and painful part of many conversions. The tradition honors honoring parents without making their approval a condition of a sincere religious choice. Seek a rabbi who can hold this tension with you; do not face it alone.
Why people ask this
This is one of the most personally consequential questions; it deserves honesty and pastoral seriousness, not platitudes.
Key terms
- Kibud av va-em
- Honoring father and mother — a core commandment.
Jewish perspectives
- Traditional: honoring parents does not require obeying their veto on a sincere religious decision.
- Pastoral: a rabbi can help navigate the tension between honoring family and following conscience.
Scholarly & historical context
The tension between honoring parents and personal religious conscience is ancient and recurring.
What is agreed upon
Family opposition is real and painful, and conversion does not require its resolution.
Where the disagreement begins
How to balance honoring parents with one's own path.
Practical consequences
Find a rabbi and, if possible, a counselor to support you through this.
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